I think I am pretty in tune with my emotions, or rather I thought I was, but now I know I am still a work in progress. I didn’t realize how often I was blowing them off until I decided to pay attention.
What I discovered was that throughout the day emotions would come up for me. I knew they had because I would feel them somewhere in my body. Then in a split second I would suppress the feeling so I could keep doing whatever it was I was doing!
So, what’s wrong with that?
After all we do have to get stuff done and if you’re like me, you probably don’t have time to sit around feeling all day.
Here’s what I discovered.
If I stopped and sat with the emotion for a couple of minutes, and didn’t try and analyze it or understand it, just welcomed it in to get as big as it needed to, I would start to accept it. It was like being listened to and really heard by someone. Then I would name it, whatever the feeling I would own it and say out loud, “I feel —————” (fill in the blanks.)
This process had a very calming effect.
Sometimes I couldn’t figure out what the emotion was so I referred to a Feeling Wheel to help me. In his article, “ Are Your Relationships Healthy?” Tal Prince talks about how we cannot be fully present if we are not in touch with our emotions.
So I decided to follow his advice and use a feeling wheel to find words for my feelings and write them down at least 7 times a day.
The results of this activity was amazing, I really started to get to know myself better. I have established new boundaries, I am asking for what I need more and reacting to my circumstances less.
If you want try this yourself download the Emotional Awareness Activator to get started.